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False Expectations ~ Contagious Love ~ Week 5

There are certain words that every parent longs to hear:

  • It will be my pleasure to drop what I am doing just to help you out.
  • What was I thinking? I promise to never hit my brother again.
  • I’ll set my alarm extra early from now on to make sure I have time to make my bed.
  • My homework is all done. Is there anything I can do for you before I go out to play?
  • Thank you for correcting me. It’s helping me grow into a mature adult.

Of course, if your children did say these things you would have to worry that an alien had whisked them away and replaced them with a clone – a clone that had obviously never heard what your child really says. “Do I haaaave to? “He started it.” “That’s not fair.” “You’re mean.” “I want to do it MY way.”

Throughout history, humans have shown a strange propensity for wanting all the reward with none of the work. We want to be thin while eating fat. We recklessly spend money we haven’t made, and we demand respect we haven’t earned.

Worst of all, we carry all those false expectations into our relationship with God. Like spoiled children, we want the faith of Abraham, the promises of Moses and power of Paul without leaving our land, wandering in the wilderness or pining away in prison.

Our Perfect Parent

I John 3 begins with these glorious words. See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God. The Almighty, Infinite, Merciful God of the universe is our Father. How cool is that?

And if you are like me, your mind automatically begins to drift towards the incredible privileges that this relationship brings – access to the throne, an inheritance in heaven, grace, forgiveness, power, significance, answered prayer and best of all, God’s firm commitment to making us look more and more like His Son, Jesus.

Unfortunately, we all too quickly forget that maturity doesn’t come in an instant. Deep faith grows over a lifetime of trials, and Christ-like character shines best during sacrifice and suffering.

Hebrews 12:9-11 says:

We respect our own parents for training and not spoiling us,
so why not embrace God’s training so we can truly live?
While we were children, our parents did what seemed best to them.
But God is doing what is best for us, training us to live God’s holy best.
At the time, discipline isn’t much fun. It always feels like it’s going against the grain.
Later, of course, it pays off handsomely, for it’s the well-trained
who find themselves mature in their relationship with God.

Being a child of the Living God is the greatest privilege in the world. He loves you enough to give you extravagant gifts, and He loves you enough to discipline you for godliness.

Do you love Him enough to gratefully accept both from His hands? If so, here are some words He would love to hear.

  • It will be my pleasure to drop what I am doing serve someone else.
  • What was I thinking? I promise to never do that again.
  • I’ll set my alarm extra early from now on to make sure I spend time with you before I start my day.
  • My work is all done. Is there anything you want me to do before I go out to play?
  • Thank you for correcting me. It’s helping me grow into a mature adult.

 

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Defining Moments ~ Contagious Love: Wk.4

In a popular Muppet TV skit, “Pigs in Space,” Miss Piggy and friends are given the rare and beautiful opportunity to discover the meaning and purpose of life.  All they have to do is wait one minute and all of the universe’s secrets will be revealed.

Unfortunately, 20 seconds into their wait the dinner gong rings. Swill Stroganoff, yum! The Space Pigs quickly balance the two choices in their minds, Swill Stroganoff or the meaning and purpose of life. Swill wins. Crazy, right?

There is a similar (without the pigs and the space part, of course) account in the Gospels. A rich young ruler comes to Jesus wanting to know how he can gain eternal life. Jesus, wanting to give this young man an opportunity to know what was truly in his heart, tells the ruler to sell all he owns, give it to the poor and follow Him.

I don’t know how long it took this gentleman to weigh his two options, money versus eternal life, but he did and money won. It seems crazy until we realize that we do this all the time, too.

This is battle that John is warning us about in I John 2:15-16:

Don’t love the world’s ways.
Don’t love the world’s goods.
Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father.
Practically everything that goes on in the world—

wanting your own way,

wanting everything for yourself,

wanting to appear important

—has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him.

Doing what my husband said to do versus having my own way is really a choice between obeying and abiding in God or following my selfish desires.

When tempted to buy a new purse at the store that I really don’t even want or need, the real question is, am I going to be a good steward of God’s money or will ‘retail therapy’ win?

Performing a good deed is a godly thing to do unless I turn it into an opportunity to mention it to others, secretly hoping they will be impressed with me.

Each of these decisions, and more, reflects the world’s way of thinking which has nothing to do with my Father, God. That kind of thinking only isolates me from Him.

Every choice matters. Each moment provides an opportunity to trust and abide in God by doing things His way.  The battle is bigger than I think.  Will I choose God or settle for Swill Stroganoff?

How about you? How can you prioritize your love for God above all else this week?

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The Way ~ Contagious Love: Wk.3

I am directionally challenged. I don’t think this is a certifiable mental disorder (yet), but it should be. It really slows me down.  Sometimes when I am going to a familiar place from an unfamiliar location, I actually have to pull off the road and just sit and think until my head hurts.  And even then, the odds aren’t good.

Last Friday, I was scheduled to speak in a church I’d never been to in city where I don’t live. I started stressing early in the day. Knowing my propensity for getting lost (I like to call it ‘circling for a landing’), my sweet husband prayed for me and generously offered to trade cars so that I could use his GPS.

Of course, there’s the small issue of not knowing how to use his GPS but I didn’t want to worry him, so I just said ‘yes.’ Deep sigh.

The Plan

My plan was to print out a Google map, trace the route on MapQuest, learn how to program the GPS AND leave an hour early just in case I needed the extra time.

Thankfully, the Lord intervened and a friend graciously volunteered to go with me. This was great news because Susan was born with a map and a GPS hardwired into her brain.

The Solution

Ahhh… my stress melted completely away. No more studying maps, printing out directions or programming mysterious devices – Susan was my map. All I had to do was to obey her commands: turn here, turn there and by golly, before you know it we were there. Susan was my ‘way;’ all I had to do was follow her.

In I John 2, John writes that those who love God keep His commands, and he says we will know what that way of living looks like because it is seen in Jesus. In other words, those who love God will follow Jesus, look like Jesus, live and love like Jesus.

In John 14:6, Jesus put it this way,

“I am the way and the truth and the life.
No one comes to the Father except through me.”

Jesus is the way to God. There is no other way.

In the Old Testament, God told Abraham to leave his familiar country and go to a place that God would show him. He didn’t hand Abraham a map or even tell him where he was going to go. God simply led the way.

When Jesus called his disciples in the New Testament, He didn’t lay out a plan of action, or map out the road. He simply said, “Follow Me.” And they did.

In a sense, we are all directionally challenged. We don’t know the way to God, how to live, how to love… and we couldn’t do it on our own even if we did.  Jesus is the only way. We are to walk with Him one day at a time.  His call is still simply, “Follow Me.”

I am so thankful that I have friends who love me enough to drive me to where I need to go. But as much as I appreciate their path-finding skills, that’s not the best part.  The true joy comes from spending time together, talking, sharing dreams, encouraging one another and growing closer to God.

God’s Way

Jesus wants that kind of intimate relationship with you and me. We don’t know where He will lead us but we do know that He will be with us and in us wherever we go. And that’s the best part.

He is still asking today, “Will you follow Me?”


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Laryngitis – “It’s Baaaack”

by Kim Avery

“They’re baaaack,” or so the corny line from the 3rd rate horror movie goes, and it’s true. Well, almost. It would be more accurate to say, “It’s baaaack,” as in that virulent  case of laryngitis that stole three months of my life this past spring. Three months.

Crazy, isn’t it? I mean who has ever heard of a case of laryngitis stalking someone like a hungry shark on a summer day? And not just someone but a very talkative woman?  And not just a woman but a Life Coach who spends her days talking ON THE PHONE? And if I were to be really honest, I wonder why speechlessness is dogging not just a female Life Coach who makes her living talking on the phone, but why is it chasing me!?

Joy Is Good

You see, I am all about joy. I like being happy. I’m quick to smile. And I avoid elective pain at all costs. In Kim’s world, joy is good; suffering is bad.

Suffering Seems Bad

Unfortunately, that rule of thumb doesn’t bode well for those who live in a world filled with brokenness, death, disease, and pain. If my mood were dependant on the things that happen around me and to me, I might as well give up now.

But it doesn’t.

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,

in this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ; and though you have not seen Him, you love Him, and though you do not see Him now, but believe in Him, you greatly rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory…

I Peter 1:3-9

I have been born again, and I have a living hope  > My hope comes from the resurrection of Jesus Christ  > Trials will come but they can’t threaten what Christ has given  > By believing in Him, I can rejoice with joy that is literally inexpressible. Good thing it’s inexpressible, since I can’t talk again :) .

No matter what, joy is mine.

Trust me, you will never catch me loving pain. I don’t run towards trials. And I will absolutely pray, “Lord, if it’s Your will, may this trial quickly pass.” But in the meantime, I’m planning to fight for joy every time, because I am His, and He is mine.

I’m praying for joy in this current trial today. How can I pray for you?


Danger – Blog Changes Ahead!

Danger – change ahead!!! Oh, how I wish those words never had to come out of my mouth (keyboard :) ).

The truth is that in this time-restrained world “nothing fails like success,” and what that means is that changes lie ahead for the Living in Love with Jesus blog here at Life Coaching for Christian Women. In others words, I have been so undeservedly blessed by my Father God that I find myself in the difficult position of having to narrow the scope of the Living in Love with Jesus blog that I love.

Change Is Hard

This is hard!!! I get a lump in my throat just saying it but know it is for the best.

I love everything I do, and if my time and energy were unlimited (hah!), I would only add more to my plate and not take a single thing away. Unfortunately, that is not what God seems to be calling me to in this particular season of my ministry life.

I am praying that revamping the blog will allow me some additional time and focus to devote even more to my one-to-one coaching practice and to public speaking engagements with Christian women. My life’s passion is to live contagiously in love with Jesus and helping other Christian women do the same is what gets me out of bed every day.

Delightfully Intermittent

Thus, for a time Living in Love with Jesus will move to a “delightfully intermittent mode” – meaning that I’ll allow myself the privilege of posting when time permits and my heart cannot be contained in its sharing. Against all prevailing blogging wisdom, (don’t you just love it when God goes against prevailing wisdom), this will be completely random and hopefully will become a sweet unanticipated surprise to readers each time it appears.

Stay In Touch

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God has blessed me beyond measure with amazing relationships developed through this blog, such as my relationship with you, and I pray that those continue until we meet in eternity face to face.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for all you are and all you do. Please let me know of any way that I can serve you and pray for you as we eagerly await our Savior’s return.

God loves you and so do I!

Humbled by His love ~ Kim

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